If you’re considering coaching support, chances are good one of these scenarios sounds familiar:
"I swear it seems all I do is work, and yet I just don't feel like I’m accomplishing as much as I should."
"So, I’m in charge of this team now. And, sure, I have all these ideas, but how do I implement them? I’m trained as an engineer/programmer/designer, not as a manager."
"My boss (or colleague or teammate or partner) is impossible to work with, but what other choice do I have?"
"I'm ready to advance. Why won't they let me?"
"I have people on my team that aren’t achieving their potential. And they’re not meeting my expectations. And I'm at a loss for how to help them."
You’re not alone. These leadership challenges are universal, and emerging leaders in all industries and all parts of the world encounter them.
But it’s how you respond to these challenges that can make or break your career.
And it can be difficult to recognize that the strategies and mindsets that worked for you in the past now may be inadequate or even harmful.
It’s time to break old habits and take your leadership skills to the next level. I can help you obtain the knowledge, tools, and behaviors you need to get there.
Bigger Responsibilities Require Broader Mindsets
One of the greatest barriers to effective management and teamwork is the tendency to be either aggressive or passive.
We’ve all seen it in the workplace—the know-it-all who won’t admit a mistake and the deferential colleague who knows something’s wrong but fears speaking up. It’s common for leaders to lean towards one of these extremes as well.
My workshops and coaching services focus on helping leaders recognize and integrate these extremes in themselves and others to cultivate an expansive, win-win mindset—The Middle Path.
Understanding and applying the principles of Middle Path thinking will empower you to:
Maintain a healthy and productive level of control over your team while avoiding micromanaging or under-managing
Build mutually respectful relationships with your team members
Create meaningful agreements with team members and customers—without resorting to hints or demands
Cultivate a sustainable team culture that balances the needs of the business and the needs of the people
Foster productive, mutually beneficial dialogues between you and your team
Turn difficult conversations into opportunities for growth and transformation
For more examples of middle path thinking (i.e., the integral mindsets that I teach/encourage), see the table below:
Summary table of Middle Path (integral thinking) mindsets
Is Coaching Right for Me?
Your role in our coaching relationship—just like in an athletic coaching relationship—is not to passively receive knowledge. To get the most from the tools and knowledge I share with you, you must be committed to active learning, open to change, and willing to challenge yourself to the following:
To examine and challenge beliefs and values that worked for you in the past
To accept help and challenge deeply held beliefs
To make yourself vulnerable. You cannot fully protect yourself and have deep, productive relationships with others.
To walk the Middle Path
The Coaching Journey
You’ve already taken the first step towards your transformation—recognizing that you’re facing a problem you can’t solve on your own.
My coaching will guide you through the remaining steps:
Determining the root causes of your problem
Investigating possible solutions
Preparing to implement your chosen solution
Putting your solution into action
As we progress, you’ll learn and start applying the principles of the Middle Path, such as finding a healthy balance between self-confidence and humility, the pursuit of bottom-line goals (winning) and your greater purpose (success), and personal responsibility and reliance on others (mutual accountability).
Mastering these principles will enable you to make smarter decisions, delegate more effectively, and foster a more positive and productive work environment.
In our first formal meeting (which will last two hours), I’ll help you learn the fundamentals of the Middle Path—this will give us a common framework with which to work. We’ll also review the results of a behavioral styles assessment that will help us understand your work behavioral tendencies.
In each of our subsequent meetings, you’ll bring a gap (i.e., a problem, issue, challenge or opportunity) that you’d like to work on—a business- or project-related gap, a relationship gap, or an individual/personal gap. I’ll help you use the Middle Path frameworks to cross that gap.
Sometimes we’ll be able to solve the problem right away, other times we’ll take only a few steps toward solving it. We’ll regularly assess where you are on your journey and identify next steps towards your goals.
Between our sessions, you’ll not only reflect on what you’ve learned, but start putting it into action in your workplace. And if you have any questions or need any additional guidance between sessions, I'm available. You’re welcome to reach out to me.
When you’re ready to learn more, contact me, and let’s explore.
Our first hour is complimentary—a time for us to chat about what you're looking for and get to know each other a bit. We'll evaluate our degree-of-fit—between your needs and what I offer—and if there's a match, we'll arrange an initial block of coaching.